Doubts
Hiding this one past a break, because it’s kinda personal. Click forth if you like reading crap like that.
So, a girlfriend sort of happened in the last two weeks. And it put me at a really interesting crossroad. I had two choices after the first date, and those choices were presented due to previous failures: Either put all my chips on the table and go all-in, which would have put me at risk of an apocalyptic mood should I have been rejected; or continue to wait it out, dragging out the impending failure over the course of a few months, waiting for that sense of comfort that would never come in time.
My choices, as it were, boiled down to either a slim chance of success, or utter failure. And it was a choice I almost couldn’t make, because it almost seemed like failure was waiting down each path.
Knowing that, I just decided to admit feelings and go straight for the jugular. There was really nothing left to lose. I thought the strategy was trash at first, and that it might have been too soon, it was either too soon or never at all.
So, hey, after today, I think I can really say I like you. In that way.
Oh, me too!
And the feeling was mutual. Just like that.
Maybe I’m overthinking myself again, but I do think a subtle tweak to my not so ultimate strategy at winning the game of love is in order: While good relationships may be parlayed off of extraordinary friendships, you also have to keep the subject of a relationship on the table if that’s what you’re going for.
Because as I’ve learned the hard way, once the subject of a relationship has been shoved off the table (and as such, you get dropped into the friend zone), it’s impossible to come back from that. (Unless you are extremely lucky. I’ve managed to claw myself out of the friend zone ONCE, and it wasn’t exactly easy.)
EDIT 6/24/11: Well that was quick.
